Someone once told me that the difference between a French and an American could be summed up like this:
"If you put a French person and an American person in the middle of a dense jungle and asked them to find their way out, the French person would bend down grab some soil look at it for clues, look up to see which way the wind blew the trees and which way the sun was moving across the sky… in other words the French person would study the situation right then and there before making a move. On the other hand, the American would climb up the nearest tree, look around and holler, "HEY! Anyone out there?"
In general, because thankfully we cannot put a label on a whole country let alone a single person, the French are more methodical in their approach, trusting that they can find their way by themselves, whereas the Americans look at teamwork, and will go out on a limb to find a new way.
Why?
If you ask three hundred thousand French people, "Did you have fun in (as in did you like, enjoy, consider school some of the best years ever…) school?" Two hundred and ninety-eight of them would answer solemnly, "No." Then they would look at you oddly, and ask, "Why?"
French students go to school to learn how to study. Fun is rarely in the equation. The first day of school they are taught to come into the classroom, sit at their desk quietly. They are not allowed to talk unless they are asked a question. If the teacher asks the students for a response, or "Who knows the answer?" The French child is supposed to raise their hand no higher than their shoulder, with their pointer finger in the air. Unlike an American student they cannot wave their arm frantically, and with excitement saying, "I know, I know, ask me!!!!"
The French are taught from a very early age to sit still, listen, obey, and if in doubt re-think, and if you don't know the answer listen, and if you think you are right you probably are wrong.
Therefore when they do know the answer they know they are right. Their opinion is well thought out, they can back it up with an army of examples. They will listen to your arguments, your ideas, but in the end, they believe they are never wrong.
An American student is taught they are the master of their universe, that they can accomplish whatever they want to do, as long as they believe it, work hard towards it and/ or have the money to get it.
The American and the French come from a very different upbringing, a different approach to education and a way to be. In France, you rarely hear: "If there is a will there is a way!" Watching my children go through the French schools, and my listening to many of them talk about schools I have come to believe that I would have suffered greatly in their mold. Simply because I was raised to climb a tree, and believe in myself even if I didn't have a single example to back it up.
This is not to say that one approach is better or worse than the other. Both have advantages, both are worthy, and both ways of educating can shape a different way of thinking.
In the end, the American who climbed the tree, and the French person who studies the surroundings find their way… and both ways bring for an interesting conversation at the end of the day.
Leave a Reply