Sel de la Vie… The Salt of Life in France

                                                  salt shaker

When the leaves turn golden and begin to fall, I remember that it is that time of year to have my annual check-up. Over 15 years ago, I was told I had ovarian cancer. My son Sacha was only three weeks old at that time, and Chelsea was a toddler. To make matters worse, my French was terrible, and the doctors didn't speak a word of English.

Everyone knows someone who has had cancer. But when the doctor labels you with that dreaded word, it brands you, making the world look like a whole new place, more beautiful and frightening.

It has been years since the letter "C" placed itself on me. I am cured. The story is far behind me, and the memory isn't as haunting as it used to be. Nevertheless, when the leaves turn golden, autumn arrives, and a chill comes into the air, I find myself somewhat nervous. The mammogram, the scan, the blood test, the "How are you?", and the memory of that first test comes to the physical, t to the surface.

                       salt shaker

A week ago, the nurse came to my house to take my blood (yes, they do that in France). The results were ready, and I went to see my doctor. Besides being low in iron, my blood counts were a bit off. I think it is a symptom of the last year—nothing serious.

My doctor added another test. As she talked about it, I realized I did not understand what she was saying. One word kept coming up: "selle." It sounded like sel, which is "salt" in English.

I was confused and asked her in French, "Sel, is it a test to measure my sodium level? What does it show?"

She looked at me perplexed and said, "No, not really, but it is a test to make sure you are not bleeding inside."

Confused, I stammered and repeated her words, "Bleeding inside?"

 

                             salt shaker

She reassured me that she didn't think I was bleeding inside, but she wanted to rule out one of the reasons that might cause my iron to be as low as it is…just to be sure that nothing serious was going on inside me. The doctor quickly added that the pharmacist would explain how to take the test.

The doctor said, "With your history, we need to be extremely mindful."

The doctors always say that to me— "with your history." At that point, I bow my head and follow their lead. I went to the pharmacy to get the selle test.

                                                              salt shaker                                        

When the pharmacist brought out the test, I asked her how I was to take it. She seemed embarrassed but opened the package and told me to put a little selle on each square. She added that I was to do this three days in a row.

I was REALLY confused… so I asked, "Can I use any type of sel=salt?"

She turned red but added, "Use whatever selle you have."

I thought out loud, "Gee, I guess I can use my lavender sel=salt?"

She laughed like it was a funny joke that I had made, "It sure will smell better." I looked at her like I was missing something but smiled anyway. She went on to say that when I put my selle on the three squares, I was to call the number on the package, and a nurse would explain the next step."

 

                                           salt shaker

When I arrived home, I showed French Husband the test and told him how strange I thought it was that I needed to put sel=salt on the two little squares over the next three days. I added, "I guess the sel=salt absorbs overtime on the paper and then they mix my blood on it? I don't know why I have to do it myself? Why don't they have those sel=salt squares made up in advance?"

French Husband grinned. At that point, I knew I had misunderstood something BIG TIME. I felt red coming to my face.

He said, "Corey, Corey, Corey… "Selle" is not salt; it is a medical word for poop."

Yes, I am still learning French, and I feel like shit.

Photos: Antique French salt shakers. I now know why I have collected them over the years.



Comments

71 responses to “Sel de la Vie… The Salt of Life in France”

  1. Oh your stories deeply touch my heart.
    I love you
    I hope all tests always remain fabulous
    Just like you.
    I love you Sugar Plum~

  2. A funny story, but then you do seem to have quite a story to tell.

  3. I always thought it was merde

  4. Maybe it is time for you
    to have a colonoscopy. It really
    isn’t that bad since you aren’t
    awake during the procedure and
    they can find any problems that
    are developing. Three years ago
    they found two pre-cancerous cysts
    during my colonoscopy and I am
    happy that I had the test. I am
    a seven survivor of breast cancer.
    It is best to do the tests and not
    have to worry.
    Jan

  5. hahahahahahaha!
    I know Corey…when learning French, one of my friends and I decided NEVER say “cou” because we could mistake it by …you know…the same word without the o..

  6. Merde!
    Take heart dear one.

  7. you are sooooo funny! thanks for sharing your funny stories with us! good luck with your ‘salt’ test!!!!!!
    Jill

  8. Kristin Wight

    HAHAHAHAHA! That is so something I would do if I lived in a foreign country. : ) I do it in my native language at times…. : )

  9. I’m sure the test will be just fine, I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you.
    Funny story, btw…..

  10. Corey,
    Oh my gosh too funny. Glad you are in survivor of cancer club.
    I am as well.
    Had thyroid cancer, and parathyroid cancer 17 years ago.
    Hope you are recovering from your grammatical error!
    Mim

  11. Haha. Don’t worry, that sort of things happens to all of us living in a foreign country. I am always so careful at work, don’t want to make that sort of mistake there!

  12. Although cancer is no laughing matter, 7 years cancer-free myself you have made me laugh and that is the best medicine.
    Hope your selle is fine.I know your sense of humor is great.
    xo Susan

  13. corey.. this is funny story.. I am laughing out loud about it but it was for awhile when I reread your story again and the big C reminds me of my step mom who passed away 3 weeks ago because of cancer.. have a great day!

  14. You are hilarious! I got quite a laugh out of this story once I got over the initial “bleeding inside” part. I just had my first colonoscopy too. It was a breeze. Really I’d do it again with no hesitation if they told me I needed it. It was that easy. Ok, girl know you are prayed over and loved by many.

  15. Oh Corey how funny!
    Even though I would love to live in France, I fear I would not survive! : )

  16. Well, that’s one word you’re likely to remember.
    I think you’re right about your last year being draining, eat some extra lentils to get your iron levels back up 🙂
    My old job back in the USA used to be analyzing those little cards with people’s “selles” smeared across. I don’t miss that job too much 🙂

  17. Corey,
    Another thing we have in common. I too had Cancer, mine was the breast. My youngest was 6 weeks old at the time of my diagnosis, and it was November/December that I was diagnosed. First the biopsy, then the lumpectomy, then the lymphnode excision, then the SCANS…the scarey Scans where you find out exactly how much of your body has been invaded. I’m in year 4 since the diagnosis, and Tuesday December 16th, I go in for my yearly Scans…always fills me with concern, what if the answer is different this time. So far there has been no spread past the lymphnodes. That all seemed so easily treated with the surgery, chemotherapy and radiation.
    Feels like a million years ago, but every year, it is a stark reminder that I had Cancer…Cancer that didn’t care that I had four kids, including a new baby. Cancer that didn’t care that I had a plan to live happily ever after.
    Cancer scares me because it simply doesn’t care. It’s like an extreme case of bad manners!

  18. Massilianana – vintage paper bundle

    Ha ! Ha ! Ha ! Lovely collection of salt shakers indeed ….. Your story is so very funny , but I find it unfair the docteur didn’t tell you what selle meant , knowing you are a foreigner . OK , it could be a little embarrassing to discuss but he/she went to medical school , for Heaven’s sake !

  19. my face went from worry to grin!!!
    love you corey and i hope all is well…
    and your husband is a blast…;)
    nancyxx

  20. OMG, corey what a bittersweet and funny story. But the good news is that the doctor visits are now down graded from terrifying to merely humiliating…LOL
    btw, i am anemic somewhat and my MD had me do the same thing followed by a colonoscopy and it was all clear, i’m sure it’ll be the same for you, doctors everywhere are very cautious
    maria in NY

  21. And I thought English was hard with its multiple ways of saying things…that is so funny.

  22. Sheala Feeney

    Oh My!!!! Have fun with those squares. I pray your tests are fine.
    XOXOOXOXOXO,
    Shea

  23. not madical though…
    😉

  24. Well, FH got you onto the saddle again !
    (“saddle” is another meaning of “selle”)
    😉

  25. I was getting anxious….which ended up with a big chuckle!!! What a funny story…good luck with your selle!!!

  26. Oh I do hope your tests come back normal. Throw a little sel over your shoulder as you take the tests! Your story did make me chuckle over the word misunderstanding.

  27. How funny and what timing.
    I go for my annual visit Monday!
    Why it always seems that we worry so much prior to these visits…
    and when they’re done. We feel so relieved! I think it is because we do not want to find out something bad. If we don’t know… it doesn’t exist. What a wonderful support group you have going here. I am working on getting D in for her visit as well.
    Might need a little coaxing from you!
    Take care.

  28. Corey,
    I’ve been reading financial news all morning and feeling grim.
    Then I visit Tongue in Cheek, burst into laughter, and remember to keep things in perspective. Thanks, Corey. Hope you’re fine.

  29. Oh Corey… You’re too much fun! 🙂
    Love*

  30. Hi Corey,
    I loved this story so much. Talk about being “lost in translation.” Thanks for the giggle. Good luck on your tests.
    XO,
    Lisa

  31. As a former nurse, I could see this coming from the beginning but it still gave me a big laugh. I’m surprised that neither the doctor nor the pharmacist put embarrassment aside to make sure you knew what to do with the test.
    Hoping for good results…

  32. Corey – that is so funny – just as well you checked with him – those salty aquares would have confused them totally! Why on earth couldn’t they call it poop?
    Good luck wiht all those tests – I’m sure it is just exhaustion from all you have been through. Thinking of you.

  33. Corey – what an ending to that story (and I’m talking about your last line, not FH correcting you as to the meaning of selle)! Will I ever look at salt shakers the same????
    Also, while the test you are having is for a different purpose, if you haven’t had a colonoscopy, please consider getting one. As you probably know, they are recommended at age 50 (earlier if there’s a family history). Colorectal cancer has few symptoms until it’s too late, but is absolutely curable if caught early. I waited 4 years past 50 for my colonoscopy (mostly because I dreaded it), but it was absolutely nothing as bad as I anticipated and now I know that I’m ‘clear’ which is great for the piece of mind.

  34. Well…I’m awake!…and laughing my head off! How funny! Praying for perfect test results!

  35. Oh my, I will have to remember this when I’m in Paris.
    To cute, well at least it bought a smile to your face while you worried. Good luck on the test. All will be fine.

  36. Corey,
    The ending to your story has really cracked me up!!! I’m still laughing about it. If that had been me, I would have thought what you thought.
    I will keep you in my prayers for a “smooth sailing ahead” report from the Doctors.
    Kris

  37. Various of us in our family have been through this before. It has never been serious. Do not fret. If you have to have a colonoscopy, that’s not much fun but it generally is not serious either.
    The language thing salt/poop is hilarious. We speak Spanish (met in Costa Rica) and are always making huge faux pas (whatever the plural of that word is??!.
    Denese

  38. loss for words.
    want to both laugh and give you a hug.
    i hope that all is well with your selle…

  39. Oh Corey, I can understand how those things can happen when two languages are involved. My physician was a lovely French woman who spoke English with the most delightful accent, sometimes quite heavy. She explained to me the diabetic diet she wanted me to follow. She was so beautiful and trim and I asked her if the diet was her secret. She said, “Yes, I do try to follow it, but I SHEET all ‘da time.”
    I was shocked. She was always quite prim and proper and to her her say the SH*T word was a jolt. She left the room and the nurse came in to give me further instructions. I expressed my surprise at the doctor’s language and the nurse burst out laughing. It took me a moment until I realized that what she had said (with her French accent changing the meaning) ——- I CHEAT all the time!
    Tragically she passed away and I do miss her spunk and her incredible French style.
    – Suzanne, the Farmer’s Wife

  40. I laughed at the end, but oh dear, I was quite scared for a while with all those added tests! I’m glad you’re doing OK now.

  41. Ellen Cassilly

    The best of luck to you on your test. I vote for the colonoscopy. Had my father had this test they would have caught his cancer in time. Hugs.

  42. So funny, since it was you and not me! I’ll be waiting to hear the results.

  43. Oooh! I want to hug you for that funny, sweet misunderstanding!! I have had to do this test, by the way, a few different times. It’s not so fun and it’s “interesting” to figure out how to do it, but it’s good to do it to find out how you are. I would say “have fun” but that’s not the most appropriate thing to say regarding this test and besides, I know you do have fun in all that you can, anyway!

  44. Ahh I am gald to no the word for poop in french, this is very exciting for me! I hope all is well with the crappy test you have to do! Thanks for sharing!
    -haley

  45. i meant know! ha you might not know french but i don’t even know english 😉

  46. “beautiful and frightening” indeed. Pooping on a square never had such a funny misunderstanding. I feel so thankful that the French health system is keeping such a watchful eye on you. I have an odd request Corey. Very odd as I do not personally know you or what exact area of Provence you are in. I have been chatting via blog with a young American couple (Michael and Whitney Larson) who are staying in Provence for about 3 months and I think they are away from family for the holidays. Their blog is http://michaelandwhitneyineurope.blogspot.com/ if you at all have any time for encouragement or tips for their stay at this magical (and sometimes isolating) time of year.

  47. Corey, Corey, Corey! I am laughing so hard. Even I knew what that was, you poor thing they must all think you crazy by now. That’s why we care so much for you, you’re so honest about yourself.

  48. Bahahahahaha! And you will be offering “fleur de selle” to your doctor, right?
    I hope your tests come back with good news. 🙂

  49. Imagine being a foreign patient with a doctor request for a stool sample!

  50. Corey…
    That is a funny story – it is good to laugh. and please don’t worry about being low in iron. I don’t eat meat either and I am always close to anemic. They say that most women are before menopause. I am “post” but still low, again, no meat!
    Keep smiling! Ruth

  51. I absolutely adore you!! I am always telling my husband this and that abt. Corey in France and he looks at me like I am completely insane…should I share this one?:)? My question would be how do I get the poop on the tiny little squares?

  52. Ewwww. You have to put poop on it? LMAO.

  53. Oh my lord you just gave me the laugh I needed today. It’s been a rough day around my house. But the very last line in your post was hysterical. Now I will never think of salt and not think of selle at the same time. teehee.

  54. The complexities of language! Thank goodness you had FH to explain it to you … although I think it would be interesting if you used salt instead of … selle. You always find the funny side of life, dear Corey!
    xo,
    Lynda

  55. Corey
    You had me worried as I read along I was feeling anxious for you & a bit worried… the photos of the salt shakers were great by the way — I was thinking as I was reading take it all with a “grain of salt” but that is an American saying, where is this going I wonder?? then your FH comments shedding light on the situation, he must be very amused with you and your “lost in translation” French –finally the end — and I laughed out loud with a bitter sweet laugh I am still be-mused by the “year of the popped out eyeballs” comment… Happy for you..
    Joanny

  56. Hahaha- funy stuff Corey.
    You will never forget that french word 🙂

  57. Hemoccult cards! I never had any idea there were so many words that meant poo in the French language-merde, crotte and now selle. Oh to have seen in person the look on the pharmacist’s face when you were going to use lavender salt on the cards…

  58. Oh my! I can imagine the anxiety and I do know how it feels as I am a cancer survivor myself. About six years ago, I had melanoma removed and luckily…I caught it early. Annual skin check ups a must and sunscreen as well!

  59. oh my. my face was read from reading that. FH is so sweet.
    prayers and thoughts for you Corey that your results are all good.
    and . . I’m guessing you are never going to forget that word? that’s the great thinga bout making these mistakes. we never make them twice. 🙂

  60. Corey, best of luck with the test. I had a scare like that earlier this year & everything turned out fine.

  61. Always learning from you, dear Corey.
    Even SH– sounds better in French!
    I have a couple of new sayings now…
    “You’re full of SELLE!” “Oh SELLE!” I can go on…:-)

  62. Betty @ Country Charm

    Corey,
    Wonderful to keep a sense of humor…cancer is no stranger to our family…I had five siblings…4 plus my Mother have died from cancer and the 5th is in remission..so far I am cancer free….God Bless…Betty

  63. I figured out pretty quickly what the selle was that you were talking about. They always look for fecal blood when a person is anemic or low in iron. The lavender selle was funny. It seems like the nurse should have caught on that you had confused the word.
    I am LMAO at Suzanne the Farmer’s Wife. That is soooooo funny about the doctor sheeting all the time.
    I do know how you feel. I had breast cancer 19 years when my daughter was 5. I go for my annual tests on 1/6. It puts a jolt of reality into you, when you hear the, “with your history”, comment. You belong to a club you were forced to join.
    ~elaine~

  64. Corey,
    What a crack up. When the pharmasist was explaining it, I thought it sounded like a fecal test, which is what it turned out to be. But when I read to the end I absolutely started laughing really loud. That is just too funny. Thanks for sharing.

  65. You made ma laugh with that ! At the begiining I knew what it was about

  66. Oh my! Your life in France is always full of wonderful stories!
    Best of luck with your “selle”…we’ll be thinking about you!

  67. Denise Moulun-Pasek

    This is a great story. I am French Canadian so I knew where your story was heading. You write very well Corey. Reading you brings a smile to my face. You are a comic, you have a great sense of timing on paper…with pictures!
    I am also 50 and this year, I began taking the test in question. It doesn’t really matter if you’ve already had cancer. If you’re 50, you “qualify”. This test is almost ridiculous. Playing in my poop made me feel like a child. Then, what to do with the sample while it dries so that you can close the little door! I found myself being very discreet about the whole thing!
    What a hoot!
    Take care,
    Denise
    (I’ll be spending our first month of July in Cotignac, if you are free, I’d love to meet you for coffee)

  68. Oh so funny! and sweetie it is a normal test. I had to do it in my late 20’s and I had no “history”. Also, lots of my patients have that same test in their medical charts.

  69. That’s funny, I didn’t know that word and kept wondering what was up. I do that test every couple of years, not a lot of fun but important…ciao

  70. Hah! Oh dear…Well, you certainly cheered FH up with that misunderstanding …and your comment to the pharmacist about lavendar selle is really quite witty. 🙂

  71. Ariane Cagle

    Corey,
    Your experience was too funny. I would have loved to seen the pharmacist’s face. English or French…those types of tests are so much “fun” to do. I’m praying your tests come back OK. It probably is that you are just worn out from the year you have had. Get plenty of rest and eat more iron rich foods.
    Ariane

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